Ok, maybe this might help with your project
" need people who no how to record in game and so on "
- You can try Growler Gun Cam, Fraps, Game Cam, HyperCam(not recomended) to record. They are VERY easy to use. Just setup the dimensions of where you want to record (for most of them), configure the quality, and press record.
" and really need someone who has somewhere to upload the video files as recording the hole games makes bit files "
Not sure how familiar you are with YouTube, but it is a great place to host videos for free...
" and i need someone who can make or sort out a video player of some sort so we can play the videos "
Same as above, YouTube provides a video player too....
So pretty much you can do it all on your own ^_^ for free.
If you want to make your own "YouTUbe" like website, I remember there was a software which could do that... I'd have to look it up. It makes it look nearly like YouTUbe excluding the color schemes etc.
Anyways, Enjoy
-Toxikr3