I don't find DT's sex scenes appropriate, and I think I've said once before that they keep his maps from being included in any official releases. I have a bit of a compromise for this map, though. I let DT have his middle school mentality fun and added a setting in the next version to remove it if server admins find it inappropriate.
I understand the difficult position you are in. But when people log in to play the game they don't know what you find appropriate . All they know is what you allow. They know what they see.
My wife started playing the game with me on LAN and I was about to get her to play online. But she saw the stupid things people say on there continually and now has no interest. We certainly would not let our kids play this game.
Yes, it may well be that a large percentage of the community thinks it is great. But that may be because the percentage that don't think such things ingame are great have already left.
The map is not the main issue. It is one example. The problem is the whole community lives up to the standard set. And right now in this regard there is no standard set.
As a military friend used to tell me, "the doers do what the checkers check." If you don't have any plan to check it then it will happen, and your name will be associated with it, whether it is in the official release or not. It is the same as the ugly maps you are concerned about on the public servers that get downloaded immediately.
A system that dissuaded such behavior, just as we dissuade cheating, would lessen this a lot. And it would leave a better impression. Then parents wouldn't have to worry about their kids playing, etc.