Direct Connecting to a Server?

[Aresters]

Right now I'm trying to create a server where a few of my friends can play however I'm having a little trouble, I've followed all the instructions on the FAQ server guide yet my server won't pop-up on the server list. I don't have a router but I do have a firewall ( Zonealarm) and I've tried turning it off and checking if the server pops up on the list but it still doesn't. Soooo my questions are what can I do still? and despite the fact that my server doesn't show up on the server list here (http://dplogin.com/serverlist.php) is there still a way my buddies can just directly connect to my server without having to go through the game's server list? If so how? Thanks! 

[TinMan]

How is your network set up?
Does it go: internet cable > modem > computer
Or is there other stuff involved?

[KiLo]

You could find your IP at http://www.ipchicken.com and give it to them and then they could type:
connect <IP>
in the console.

[jitspoe]

If your IP isn't on the list, you probably need to add "setmaster dplogin.com" to your config or type it at the server console.

[Aresters]

Thanks guys! I'll try it out and see what happens, and yes TinMan that's how it goes for me there's nothing more really in between. Thanks again guys